"I'm deciding what to think when I don't meet my expectation" The definition of failure is the omission of expected or required action.
When I think of failure this way I realize
I merely didn't do something. The reason that I only lost x amount of weight was simply because of an omission of action on my part. I can do it differently next time."
When you think about it this way, the failure experience doesn't feel so bad. It makes me want to learn and grow and try it again. Can you see that I'm the one that's determining how failure will affect me?
Success is one of those things that's acquired by failure and by being willing to fail. There's a wonderful quote that goes, "If you want success, you need to double your rate of failure." I believe in that because I think that the better you get at failing, the more willing you are going to be to do it, the more you are going to learn, and the better you are going to get at meeting your expectations.
What does "willing to fail" mean to me?
What does doubling down on your rate of failure apply to the changes you are seeking in the moment?